What is a 'relationship': It is a term that we define as "Connecting With and Growing Meaningfully". Without the dual aspect, a relationship can become dormant as if caught in a tidal drift.
Most relationships have ebbs and flows, however if you feel that your relationship is 'ebbing' more than 'flowing', then it may be time for you to ask some questions that will help you explore what it means to be 'relationally present' and consider how you could relate more authentically, stop doing what is 'extinguishing' the relationship and introduce practices that will help the relationship gain more meaning and depth.
Statistics suggest that couples who split claim the following as the primary reason:
This means that over 70% of people leaving a relationship do so because of a breakdown in how they relate to each other.
More often than not this is because one or both believe their life dreams and hopes aren't being heard, noticed or acted upon.
If you've stopped dreaming, given up hoping for something better or simply believe that 'this is as good as it gets' then perhaps it's time for a check-in to see if your relationship could be enriched by diving into what it means to be an individual within a relationship whose life vision and purpose is being realised - not relegated to the back of a busy to-do list that feels as if it's getting longer each day.
Most of us know intuitively that if our needs aren't being met, we'll look elsewhere and busy ourselves in external 'hobbies' or 'numbing' activities to minimise the sense of dissatisfaction being felt.
Together, let’s explore the ‘you’, and the other significant person in your life that together form a connection or bond - in other words a 'relationship' that is worth growing.
Over four weeks we’ll be creatively exploring with clay, paint and pencil the meaning of relationships from a deeply intuitive perspective.
Along the way we’ll learn more about our values and how we can listen to the heart of ‘relationship’ to discover the richness within.
Let's face it, life serves curve balls. And don't I know it. Over my life I've made some unwise decisions that led to learning how to meet my responsibilities - and at times that was a tough gig often leaving me isolated and joyless. If you've ever gone through life's curve balls (and realistically, who hasn't?) you know that there are really only two options:
For me, sinking wasn't an option, so it depended on how well I learnt to swim as to how I was going to come out the other side.
And along the way, as I moved from dog paddling to freestyle, there were four things I learnt:
So for many years I studied all I could about human psychology (and continue to) because learning to be the best person I can is important to showing up and being 'real'. It took courage to back myself and stick to what I believed - often in the face of people who said I didn't have what it took, but now I know that I can, I choose to live in the light, not in the shadow.
I chose to step into the person I knew I could be.
I do this work so that others can too. It's my passion. It's my life mission.
Yet, while having passion is important, it's backed by a solid well-earned education that I've synthesised into a set of tools for change. The work I do is influenced by some of my studies.
Here are some:
While I have spent a large part of my life studying and applying the skills I've learnt from across the world, it's the life lessons I learn along the way that made it all relevant. Without life's curve balls, all the learning in the world would just be 'bookish' and academic. And that isn't the best way to learn (I learnt this the hard way).
I want to share this knowledge with you in a way that is practical, affordable and realistic. The 'theory' side of things is naturally inbuilt throughout our creative process. What this means is that you'll be learning without realising that you're gaining a high level of awareness, knowledge and insight into human psychology. And it is these things that make the difference to living a life of substance.